FROM THE EDITORIAL DIRECTOR
Dr Farida Khanam is an author, editor, translator, public speaker and former professor of Islamic Studies at Jamia Millia Islamia, New Delhi. Among her books are ‘A Simple Guide to Sufism’ and ‘A Study of World’s Major Religions’. She has translated into English many books authored by Maulana Wahiduddin Khan. Currently the chairperson of CPS International, she is a regular contributor of articles to various publications. Dr Khanam has edited Maulana’s English translation of the Quran and has also translated his Urdu commentary of the Quran into English. She can be reached at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.
COMPLAINING: A SIGN OF WEAKNESS
COMPLAINING is a fatal trait. It is the habit of complaining that is at the root of various social problems. When several people live together, it is natural that they will have differences, which are often then allowed to turn into complaints against each other. These soon get transformed into enmity, abuse and a never-ending cycle of hatred.
The only solution to complaints is not to take them seriously. Instead, they should simply be forgotten. In the event of a complaint against someone, there’s no need for you to investigate it or to remember it. Instead, you must forget it—and you should do this on a unilateral basis. It is natural for complaints to arise when living together with others. But the solution to the problem of complaints is that you should not go about trying to verify them in a bid to solve them.
In this world, it is simply impossible to stop complaints. The only practical thing that you can do in this regard is to not store in your mind any complaints you might have against others.
In this world, it is simply impossible to stop complaints. The only practical thing that you can do in this regard is to not store in your mind any complaints you might have against others. This is the only solution to the problem. If you want to live in this world with a positive mind, and also to leave this world with a positive mind, you really have no realistic option but this.
Complaints are always a serious matter. That is why the only practical solution to the problem of complaints is not to make them a subject of discussion and debate. Instead, you should think that the only way to solve them is to forget them, not to find out if they are true or false. Experience suggests that investigations never put an end to complaints. In fact, they often further complicate them. Given this, forgetting complaints is the only practical way to solve them.
Dr. Farida Khanam
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